Weblog Entry - 01/07/2003: "so typical..."

	01/07/2003 Entry: "so typical..."

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Yes, I do admit that I cry for understanding from my guy and since that wasn't what I was getting...I rather end the conversation. When I wanted him to say "yes, I understand" I did not mean for him to be some airhead and act like that for everything I say. I simply wanted him to empathize with what I had to say and maybe try to stand in my shoe after all I have told him. Maybe I over reacted but people must understand that this topic that we were arguing about has been dealt with not once but several times and I have spent a very long time explaining why I do not want to discuss this issue again as it is attached with a lot of misunderstandings and complications that "the GUY" would never understand...and I say never because I have tried explaining to him once before and he told me he understands but when the issue arise again...he totally forgot that we ever even had this conversation and tries to blame it on the girl. Today I actually apologized to the guy for shutting him off and not let him speak his opinion. I do feel sorry for that. But I seriously do not want to talk about this topic anymore because I believe there are no solutions to this problem and I seriously don't think anyone would understand how I feel so I'll leave it like that.

Replies: 5 comments

I see someone's been reading the "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus" book ;)

- kiki @ 01/08/2003 07:50 AM PST

My opinion on this is that...it's all a misunderstanding. We have to remember how men's and women's values are inherently different. Women like to spend time supporting, helping, and nurturing one another, and of course, sharing their problems. And men, their instinct is if there's a problem, solve it, don't talk about it. They immediately put on their "Mr. Fix-It cap" and offers her a solution to make her feel better.

Most of the time, women just wants empathy and not solutions. Just listening with empathy and interest can be supportive. Sometimes a hug will do a lot on a bad day. The girl does not think the "boy" is an airhead, there's just thoses days when the "boy" need to just listen. The "boy" may voice his opinions at an appropriate time, but not when he's supposed to be listening. Please don't interupt her too. Yes, it's a complicated issue..a little practice will do the trick. And don't freakn' do the fake listen...because the "girl" will know and you'll be more busted. Hey, women have been practicing the art of listening for a long time...

- Princess @ 01/08/2003 01:15 AM PST

I totally agree with you. If there is no solution, then stop arguing. Don't cry anymore and just be happy with your life! Also be nice to your family and friends that actually care about you a lot. Wishing you a happy relationship.

Thanks,
md

- md @ 01/08/2003 12:25 AM PST

That's right, you tell her bt! Maybe I'll get her a penis for Christmas next year. haha, only kidding. As I certainly do not want a vagina in return and all that comes with one. I am only kidding, I am not like that. ;D

- kiki @ 01/07/2003 02:50 PM PST

most girls would totally understand your side. when a guy hears a "problem" (and if we only half-listen then everything sounds like a "problem") we want to fix it. especially for computer geeks because the ONLY reason anyone ever calls us is when there is a PROBLEM that needs to be fixed. it's not natural for us to hear something and not try to give advice or some solution.

sometimes, the guys forget that the only problem is that we (guys) need to just shut up and empathize.

- bt @ 01/07/2003 02:37 PM PST

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